I chose to become a therapist because I've been fascinated with love for as long as I can remember. I spent years reading self-help books and learning all I could about how and why we choose the partners we do and how to have a successful relationship. I thought I would inevitably become a couples therapist but I learned quickly that that work was not for me. I felt too much like a referee and not enough like a therapist when I was sitting with couples who were falling apart. 

Instead, I found myself working with individuals who were bringing all sorts of relationship issues to therapy. I was working with people who were in brand new relationships and didn't want trauma from their past to "ruin it." I had clients who were in relationships for 10+ years and though they loved their partner, they felt perpetually stuck in the same unhealthy patterns. At first, I was skeptical about what I could really do to help these clients if their partner wasn't in the room with us. 

But then, in 2016, I found myself in therapy just like my clients were. I was in a relationship at the time where my partner was refusing to do couples therapy and I found myself walking on eggshells more and more in our relationship. Turning to therapy on my own was the only thing I could think of to help. It was the best decision I made because I learned so much about myself. I learned why I wasn't using my voice to tell him my needs, what I wanted our relationship to be and how to start changing it on my own. I started taking the steps my therapist recommended and even though he wasn't ready for our relationship to change (which led to its end), I grew tremendously. 

As I was changing personally, I simultaneously saw the relationship work I was doing with my clients take off. I saw them start to transform and that transformation inevitably impacted their relationships. I saw some clients find emotional intimacy with their partners again. I saw other clients find the courage to leave relationships that stopped working long ago. But most of all, I saw my clients find themselves and that helped them find the love they truly wanted, either with their existing partner or someone new. 

That's what I want to help you with. I know how frustrating it is to not see your partner doing the work and to have them refuse to join you in couples therapy because I've been there. I also know you're not ready to give up on your relationship; you're here because you still have hope that things can change for the better. I want to help you get there and I can't wait to be a part of your journey.