While We Wait.

Election day was November 3rd. Today is November 6th. We don’t yet know who will be the president of our country for the next four years. We are waiting.

Some people use distraction to help them wait. They will focus on anything else except for the thing they are waiting for. Others over-focus on what’s being waited on. They struggle to pay attention to anything else. For me, I have always struggled with patience; it’s not my strong suit. I am the opposite of a procrastinator. While many people in my life view this as a strength that I get things done sooner rather than later, what most people don’t see is how this can be a by-product of anxiety. If I don’t get it done now, then what will happen? The same way that over-procrastination can wreak havoc on someone’s life (because nothing ever gets done and things get missed), so can doing too much (because you’re juggling all the things at once and driving yours ...

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A Full Plate.

Right now, my plate is full. My practice is full and I am not accepting new clients for the time being. I am doing a home re-model project with my husband that takes up every spare moment of our weekends. I am busy, busier than I have been in a number of months. It wasn't long ago that I wrote a blog entitled "Hibernation" because with the changes brought about by COVID-19 came a slowing down. That feels like a lifetime ago now. 

If you're anything like me, you don't realize that your plate is full until "food" starts falling off of it. In other words, it is only when you notice yourself dropping the ball on certain tasks that you wake up to how much you've been doing. Sometimes, your plate may be quite full while your partner's plate looks relatively empty by comparison. You may notice feelings of envy and resentment arising within you as they get more time to sit on the couch than you do. On the flip side of t ...

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Why Every Couples Disagrees About Money.

Some couples argue about housework. Some couples argue about in-laws. Some couples argue about how many children to have. But I can guarantee, that every couple will argue about money at some point in their relationship. It doesn't matter whether you're living paycheck-to-paycheck or have more money in your account than you know what to do with. Because as you'll soon see, arguments about money aren't about the money at all. These arguments are actually about a variety of other issues. The next time you and your partner argue about finances, see if the two of you are actually arguing about any of these issues underneath the surface. 

1. Differing values and priorities

What we spend our money on says a lot about us. How much do we donate to those in need? How much do we spend on hobbies we enjoy? How much do we spend on taking care of our health? When couples are disagreeing about w ...

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