Lessons I Learned While Planning My Wedding (And What You May Learn Too)

Today is May 31st and on June 9th, I will be getting married. I have had a lot on my mind these final days before I become a wife and what these past 11 months have taught me while I've been engaged. You hear it all the time: planning a wedding is stressful and not easy. I don't disagree with that but I will also say that for me, it has been way more fun and enjoyable than I thought it would be. It's felt more like play than work most of the time. That doesn't mean it hasn't had its challenges, though. For anyone who has planned a wedding themselves, you know how it has the power to teach you a lot about yourself, your partner, and the other relationships in your lives. For those of you who haven't planned a wedding, let me share with you what I've learned from my own experience. If you plan a wedding someday, maybe these lessons will help you along in your own process. 

1. Every issue that you have with your partner wi ...

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Echoism and Romantic Relationships

This month, I received my Psychology Today magazine in my mailbox. In this issue, there was an article called "Listening to Echoism". I  knew I wanted to write a blog on it as soon as I read it. The term was developed by a psychologist named Craig Malkin and he's been researching this idea for over 5 years now. While I don't want to re-hash what he's already written and said on the subject (click here to read a great article on it), I do want to go over the basic idea of what it is and how it can affect your romantic relationship.

Echoism is essentially the opposite of narcissism. While narcissists crave attention, echoists hate it. While narcissists find it difficult to empathize with others, echoists are good at it to a fault. Before you immediately think that you're an echoist just because y ...

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Can you be Friends with an Ex?

There are really two sides to this argument of if you can be friends with an ex: people either say you can or can't do it. Regardless of what answer people give, it normally comes from their personal experience. They may say to you something like, "Oh, I'm friends with all my exes, it's not weird" or "I tried to be friends with an ex and it was a disaster. Don't do it!" Both sides have some validity here. Is there a way to do it? Yes. Is that going to work for everyone? Definitely not. Let's dive into both sides so that you can decide for yourself if being friends with an ex is do-able and right for you. 

The Argument: You CAN be friends with an ex
I've seen it happen, but there are a couple key ingredients that are essential to making this work. Most people who decide to maintain a friendship after their relationship ends have a lot to lose. Maybe they work together or they have mutual fr ...

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