I have a friend who tells me that I am the person she calls when she is on the verge of giving up on a relationship. She's ready to throw in the towel, she's had enough, she wants to find the door and leave. And then she calls me and I have most of the time told her to stay and keep fighting for the relationship and most of the time she does stay and winds up thanking me for it later. 

Making the decision of whether to stay or leave a relationship is one of the hardest decisions a person can make especially when you've invested a lot of time and energy into the person you're with. Not only is it emotionally painful to say goodbye to a relationship but it's made all the more difficult if you share children, pets, a home, and financial resources together. It is not a decision to take lightly. To be honest, I could probably write 5 blogs on this topic but I'm going to at the very least try to give you some clarity about whic ...

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I was passively pursued once. I was 18 and never had a boyfriend. We met at a mutual friend’s house. He sat next to me and put his arm around me because he thought I was cute. After running into each other one or two more times when the same friend would have people over, he asked me out and I said yes. Our dates consisted mostly of watching movies together. He was nice. And I broke up with him 6 months later. He pursued me and I passively let him.

Most, if not all, of us have been in this boat at one time or another. Someone nice approaches you and you think they're just fine. They ask you out and you say yes. You go through the motions of being in a relationship and you know it the whole time: this person chose you and is way more interested in you than you are in them. This happens for a variety of reasons: you don't want to hurt their feelings. Maybe you just want to be with someone and because there aren't any major red flags with this per ...

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Some call it love at first sight. Fireworks. Je ne sais quoi. Instant attraction. Chemistry. Whatever you call it, most if not all of us have experienced it at one point in time or another: you met someone and went, "Whoa." They swept you off your feet and it was game over. You were hooked. This is what most people crave and what society has told us to expect when it comes to falling in love. They say if you're not feeling that spark, something is wrong and it's time to move on to the next. You'll feel it with the person you're meant to be with is what we're told. But do you really? 

There is a show which just started its 6th season on January 2nd called "Married at First Sight." A team of experts pick from thousands of people who apply to find 3 couples to get married at first sight without ever having met or knowing anything about the other person. Forget going on a blind date - this is blind marriage. The experts match them based on ...

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